Friday, April 10, 2009

Learn to Let Go!

I found this plague last week at our Local Hallmark Store. Unfortunately it came in a box--lol! I picked it up last night because I think its so fitting for probably 100% of us. Life isnt easy, at times its downright challenging and exhausting. I've noticed for me the older I get, the less I can handle stress wise. I'm simply not up to the challenges anymore and quite frankly I dont care to get involved in any type of drama or chaos. I went and bought this because I figure if I see this daily it will help me get this in perspective and when a fire comes my way--I can pick what I think is worth my battle. I got a challenge last week that I decided was absolutely my last time in dealing with certain things. Not only do I not want to expend anymore energy on literally what i feel is "bullshit" but also it really boils down to this for me....I know who I am--I know what i am, I know what I'm all about, and no matter what certain members of my birth family will try and do, they are not worthy of my breath anymore. I wont even give it a second thought. Some people will spend their entire lives literally trying to make a living hell for others-because they are choosing to live a living hell and dont want to live it alone. Life is to important to me, its short-it can be taken in a second, I want to enjoy every second i have and not waste a moment on pettiness. "Learn to let go", its simple really.

I think this little phrase can be paired up with "pick your battles". Most of us know by now--what is worth our fighting for. There isnt much anymore I am willing to fight over--my kids are grown--they can protect themselves...material things arent worth fighting at all, so really what is there? Would I fight for my reputation? NOPE--because I know who I am and what I am--and if people who are close to me dont know by now--thats their problem and not mine and again...what it comes down to for me--is I really only care about God and what he thinks of me.

This is a longggg post and I didnt intend it to be, I've had a super busy week and am finally able to find some time to play. I have alot going on in my mind because of some personal things going on. I'm going to have to make some personal decisions soon because I find my "space" being challenged and I need some space. I'm at a point where I'm once again pleasing everyone but myself. Women are so good at that arent we?

Bugsy is doing very well. He made it 24 hours without leaving me a present yesterday! He's sleeping quite well also! Only issue with him is he is chewing everything I own. When he leaves I will need to replace all my cute stuffed animals and one pillow in particular. I think he took to this pillow like his woman. He was trying to be lovey with it--but was quite brutal and has been ripping apart during his lovefest. If he dosnt shape up I dont think he's ready for a partner.

We are suppossed to have a really nice weekend, I'm excited to be outside! I will be posting this weekend because I'm HOME!!! YIPEEEE.

11 Thanks for your comments!:

Karen said...

Thank you for your visit to my blog. Your words meant so much. Isn't it strange how losing someone you don't really know can affect you so deeply? I kept putting myself in his Mom's shoes, and it just makes me want to grab my kids and never let them go.

Will you share? ;) I need that little plaque too. My best friend is constantly telling me "Karen, there are givers and there are takers. You are giver. Your sister is not."

Yet it hurts and it just drives me insane. I too, have learned only recently, within the past 3 weeks or so, that there is just no pleasing some people. I cannot for the life of me figure it out. I am all the family she has - there is only the 2 of us now that our Mom is gone. But . . . I have finally decided to give it to the Lord. I am not to worry about this any more. I am a good person. If she doesn't choose to WAKE UP, then so be it. It's her loss, not mine. I love her kids like they are my own, and I hope that never changes.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, please know you are not alone. We must love our family - but nobody said we have to like them! (did I say that?)

I hope you have a "peaceful" Easter and remember - you just have to "let it go!".

Big hugs. Karen

Nina Diane said...

I'm with you just reach a age that it's all so senseless and you don't care to be up in any drama at all. I told everyone after I turned 50 that I will do what I want, when I want and I don't really care what anyone thinks of it.
and to answer your question from my blog...yes, that's my porch. It's the deck on the back of the house. Johnny built it last year so I'll post some more picks later on.
Happy Easter to you....

Lori said...

Dawnie, Have a beautiful Easter weekend!
Thank you for the inspirational post♥

Connie said...

Dawnie...I have a sister too that is just making life difficult and I have had to make the choice to not keep in close touch anymore. She is hurtful and mean and I don't need that in my life. I feel your pain but I too choose to live and not let it bother me and I am going to live my life. We are at that age, I think where we don't really care if everyone likes us or if they approve. You go girl and live.. Love ya, Connie

P.S. I had my son's dog for a couple days while he was on spring break! Who would have thought???

The Sign Lady said...

What a great post.
Maybe this is the 'wisdom' that comes to us with age.
We learn to let go of the things that we can't do anything about, that take up to much of our precious time... and we now have the life experience to discern the difference between what is important and what is pointless.

Have a terrific weekend.

grammy said...

Sounds like you are having a hard time right now with family or just a life situation. The plaque says it all. Sometimes that is what we need to do to be healthy. Have fun at home (o:

rosemarie said...

hey dawnie,glad you got some time off,i hope the weather will be good,oh you asked what i was doing,well jim put all the office stuff downstairs and the dining set up stairs,justin got it painted and i really love it.

Ginger said...

It's a hard lesson to learn. I try to let things go, but sometimes I lie in bed at night with something going over and over in my mind.
I had a falling out with my brother and we didn't speak or see each other for 6 years. But we have reconciled and are getting along okay again...I just can't stand his wife and kids. Oops..did I just admit that? yep.
Have a great weekend.

laurie @ bargain hunting said...

I wish I had words of wisdom to reply to your words of wisdom, but I think you've said it all and said it very well. We all need to learn to let go. Thanks for this great post. laurie

Lynn@ The Vintage Nest said...

Happy Weekend Dawnie. I like your sign very much and absolutely agree with it and try to live by it. It's hard but I try. ~ L

Sassy said...

I ♥ it! It is perfect...and I need one....I'm with you...I am exhausted and can't hardly handle much more....L I F E!!!!!!